How to communicate properly without always trying to fix it?

Give your wife a tag line which will be a sign to let you know when this is a fix it issue or when it is a just listen issue. Now as a man you have to still be willing to be as engaged in the conversation even though she is not looking for your solution. Some men have a tendency to not pay attention if they are not solving a problem. When you are engaged with your wife and she can speak freely with you it will cause high quality emotional connections with her so you don’t want to disengage if she says “I’m not looking for a solution, I just want you to hear me.”