How not to be so independent?

Do you want to be alone or do you want a man? Do you want to push him away or do you want to assist him in becoming the man you desire? It is a tough position to be in if this is where your marriage is, but if this is the choice you made you must begin helping the situation and not harming the situation. By telling a man what he is not or what he can’t do, you are not helping him to get there. You need to use words of faith and encouragement. You need to talk with him in a way that shares what you would like for him to do without sounding critical of who he is presently. God has designed you to help him and you are well qualified to get the job done, but you must use wise strategies. You have the helper on the inside of you that can show you how to help him and thus help your situation.